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Preparing for a Divorce
Written by: Jillian Hester
Tips on Preparing for a Divorce
If you are considering asking your spouse for a divorce, or you know that they are going to ask for a divorce, you probably feel the need to ready yourself. Preparing for divorce is usually very hard. On top of the emotions that you are feeling, you might find it difficult to even know where to start preparing. That is completely understandable, and there are a few things you can do to make sure that you are fully prepared. Here are some tips to help you accomplish that.
Try to Stash Some Cash -
A divorce is usually financially draining. If you stash some cash away, you will have it for whatever needs you may have. For example, if you have to leave the home, or if you will have to hire an attorney, it would be helpful. It is not a good situation to be in when you are blindsided by a divorce and you have to leave the home but you have no money with which to do it. It would be equally as bad if your spouse has the money to hire a great attorney, but you don't. If at all possible, stash some cash away until the divorce becomes known.
Emotionally Preparing -
Sometimes it seems like the person that you are divorcing is completely different from the person you married, and that can be hard. You might not be prepared to deal with the way they act or handle things. A divorce can really turn a person into a vicious, self centered and downright cruel person. When you're preparing for divorce, be prepared to see a completely different side of the person that you have loved or have been with for the length of your marriage. You might wonder how in the world they managed to hide their horns and tail for so long!
Preparing Your Children -
A divorce is scary enough for children the way it is. You do not want them to be blindsided. It can be very traumatic for a child to find out suddenly that they are not going to have a whole family any more, and usually they find out when their parents are screaming at the top of their lungs at each other or being angry or cruel in some other way. Talk with your children about the changes that are coming. It's important that they know things are going to be different, but that they are still very loved and that you are still a family.
It's important that when you're preparing for a divorce that you factor in all of these issues and try to be as prepared as you possibly can. While no amount of preparation will lessen the pain or hurt that you feel, it can make things go more smoothly or even to your advantage. Following the advice above can at least help you achieve some control at a time when you feel like everything is beyond your control.