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Questions and Answers about Divorcing
Written by: Jillian Hester
Common Questions about Divorce
Divorce is never pleasant. That's something that you've probably come to realize in a very hard way if you're going through a divorce now. There are emotions that you never knew even existed that come over you during a divorce. One thing that you will probably have is a lot of divorce questions. You probably won't be able to answer them, and that can be very frustrating. You should know that every person is different, and the answers will be different for each one. However, here are a lot of common questions and some answers that might help you.
Q. How do I know that it's time for a divorce?
A. The answer to this question is definitely different for everyone. First of all, if you are in an emotionally or physically unhealthy situation, you need to get out. If you are unhappy or the marriage doesn't seem to be working, you can try to work on things with your partner. The thing is, your partner has to be willing to work with you, and the both of you have to be committed. Or, you can choose to get a divorce. If your partner doesn't want to work things out, or nothing is working, you may want a divorce. In any situation, it depends on your safety, health and happiness.
Q. I have decided to get a divorce. What is the first thing I should do?
A. This is one of the most important divorce questions there is. You will need to prepare yourself for the divorce by learning what you can. The first thing you need to do is research. Find out what you can about the laws in your area, and what you need to do. There may be a certain process that you must go through, or certain laws that you must follow in order to divorce your spouse. Find those out. The internet is a good place to find them, or you can choose to hire an attorney to help you.
Q. Should we divide things up between us, or allow a judge to do it for us?
A. Anytime you can work on your own to settle your issues, including division of property and assets, it's good. The thing is that you don't want to allow your spouse to take advantage of you. You need to make sure that the division is fair and that you get what you deserve. If you have children and they will be with you most of the time, you also have to consider their needs as well.
Q. What about our children?
A. This is another of the most important divorce questions. Divorce is never easy when children are involved. It's important that they get a good amount of time with both parents, unless one has been deemed unsafe for some reason. It is also important that they understand what is going on. Talk to them and show them extra affection during this time. One thing you should never do is talk bad about your spouse in front of the children. No matter your feelings, this will confuse the children and it is traumatic.
While no divorce and no situation is exactly the same, these answers should really be able to help anyone. Utilize this advice, and keep smiling. There will be a brighter day.