Adultery - Divorce
Coping with Divorce
Dating After Divorce
Divorce and Children
Preparing For Divorce
Life After Divorce
Written by: Jillian Hester
Adultery and the Feelings of Betrayal and Sadness
Dealing with a divorce where adultery has played a major role is never easy. Whether you are the partner that has committed adultery, or the partner who has been cheated on, it is tough. There are the feelings of betrayal and sadness, and then of course anger, frustration and more. Adultery is among the major reasons for divorce that there are. While the adultery is usually blamed, most of the time it is just a symptom of other problems in the relationship.
How to Deal
Every person is different, so what works for you may not work for everyone. However, there are some things that you may want to do in order to get closure, or for your own peace. One of them is to learn the specifics. While this might not seem like a good idea, many people need to know the full truth of what their spouse has done. It allows them to get some sort of closure. Not knowing can be frustrating, and you may spend a lot of time wondering about one time or another that your spouse left the house and what they were doing. Knowing can keep you from wondering, and help you to accept things and move on.
Taking Time for You
Going through a divorce where adultery has happened can be emotionally, physically, and financially draining. One thing that will help is taking plenty of time for you. Do things that you truly enjoy, whether it's going to the movies, spending a whole day in your pajamas reading a book, or going out with your friends. Taking this time to allow yourself the process of accepting and dealing with what is happening is truly important. Some people feel the need to be around friends and enjoy the socialization, while others simply want to be alone. The point is to take the time to do the things that make you feel better.
Find out Your Legal Rights
In many states, proving adultery can help you when it comes to alimony, the division of the property and assets, and even in custody cases. While it truly depends on the state that you're in and the court that you're dealing with, having proof gives you a leg up in the divorce proceedings. You should check the laws in your state and county so that you know exactly what you need to have and other important information. Knowing the laws is very important.
While a divorce where adultery has happened is very difficult, you should know that you will get through it. Knowing how to deal with it can better help you to cope and to get through the divorce proceedings. When you make sure that you have everything that you need, and also that you take care of yourself and see to your own needs, an adultery divorce can truly go more smoothly for you. This is especially true if you have children. Preparation and patience is the key.